Do you let YOU hold you back?

A few months ago, I decided that I needed a change. A physical change, yes, but I also needed to change myself.  Over the last few years, I unconsciously became a bit of a recluse. I've always been a bit of an introvert, and with all of the articles and memes on the internet lately supporting - even promoting - introverts, I started using my introversion as an excuse.   I would think "I should call so-and-so and see if they'd like to do this." and then immediately I would follow up with, "well i don't want to bother them, and it's easier and faster if i just do it by myself."  My kids had become my default friends.

But one thing about having friends that are toddlers...they're super flaky. I'd make plans to get us all out of the house, and then one of them would have the nerve to want a nap early that day. Or they'd get sick.  Crazy thing about kids...they're always sick.

I was bored, and a little bit lonely.

So instead of reveling in it and feeling sorry for myself (for longer than necessary...of course, i did start out with that stuff), I decided that I would change.  I would stop being so afraid of...whatever it is I was afraid of.  I would stop saying no, and start saying yes.  I would actually answer the phone when people call me!! I would stop using my introverted tendencies as an excuse, and start forcing myself to step out of my comfort zone.

And you know what I've found out?  It's fabulous out here! I have done things I never would have thought I was capable of.  I have been brave, and I realize that while I may be a tad bit introverted, I. Love. People!  and also, maybe I'm not as introverted as I think I am!

I have let fear rule me for a long time. But now I'm choosing to be brave.

Are there areas of your personality that you let hold you back? What would you change if given the opportunity?  What would it take for you to take that first step out of your comfort zone?


  1. Isn't it wonderful when we allow ourselves to be brave or when we challenge ourselves?

  2. Your piece was very inspiring. I hope some people read it and begin to make a change, as you have.


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